Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Learning To Love Yourself

Can I just be real with y'all?  When I wrote this post, I didn't know that I would find myself at an even greater place of peace, love, joy and awakened. This morning I was getting dressed for work like I normally do. I looked in the mirror and thought without hesitation that I'm good enough. Today. Tomorrow. In the future. Just the way I am. Big nose. Kinky hair. Curvy hips. I HAVE HIPS!! Melon boobs. Ok so I was in the nude. Bawahaaa!!!!!! But seriously, it was another ahhh haaa moment where I realized what a wonderful creation I am.
It wasn't about what I was wearing today because I've had this skirt for at least two years. It's one of my first purchases. The moment was solely about the love God has for me. How he waited patiently for me to appreciate the gifts He bestowed upon me to use for His Kingdom. I felt like a princess who had found the golden mirror that allowed her to see inwardly. See I and others know who I use to be. The mistakes I've made. My flaws And all. God always saw what I would become
My mom and I have discussed on several occasions how you can put two different people in the same outfit or use the same products on their hair with different results. Have the same MUA beat their face but someone is going to trump the other. Not because they both lack the it factor but someone may lack the "IT" factor. The Christ centered place where the heart transformation is reflective on the outside. Folks can see it but can't really put their finger on it. Y'all feeling what I'm saying? 
We talk so much about putting in work to shape up the outside. We hit the gym 7 days a week to beat our bodies into what we think is perfection. And there's nothing wrong with a healthy lifestyle. I got a lil mini fitness turn up going on.  More importantly for me, I've been running to sit at the feet of Jesus that I might be less like the selfish parts where I pushed my own agenda and plans to be molded into the version of myself He had in mind llllllooonngggggggg before my parents met me.
And it feels so good. I feel new. Different. Stronger. Polished. 
There's more work to undergo to become a complete project but He's the potter and I'm the clay (#scripture) and only the designer knows when the vessel is perfected. So pray that I don't rush the process. Learning to love yourself is worth all the time invested down to the nanosecond. IT IS THE SECOND GREATEST LOVE OF ALL. 
purse//Forever 21
boots// sadly very old & falling apart GUESS

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Saturday, January 24, 2015

The Quick Manifestation

This is my final birthday post, maybe...lolol!
On Friday I took the day off to recuperate from the nightly celebrations. I always take a day off for myself each birthday. I need to spend time with my new self. At least thats my justification, LOLOL! I had a great time at work with my students and colleagues. The kids gifted me boxes of granola bars (that they'll probably eat up) and cards. I work with two of my sorority sisters and they treated me to lunch. Wednesday my little sisters visited, made crab cakes and shrimp scampi. We caught up on the happenings in each of our lives and watched Empire. Yes, it's garbage tv but Taraji tho'! #HustleandFlowremix
If you follow me on Instagram, you saw my post of pre-cutting for my FIRST vision board. I finished it a few days ago. #proudfirsttimer i only posted pieces on my account. I didn't want to share all of it since there are some personal things on it. But before I glued one thing onto the poster board, I received an email asking me to speak at a local Christian school to students who were struggling with self esteem. 

Do y'all know I elated I was to receive the request. Speaking engagements are definitely on the vision board. I love teaching but sometimes the students just wanna talk and share. Friday's classroom visit was just that type of moment. 

I wanted to dress casual and student friendly. I treated myself to another pair of Converse so I dressed down an ASOS pencil skirt with a classic white tee, statement necklace (thanks Leslie! ) and one of my many denim jackets. The students loved it especially the girls. 
None of that topped that fact that I didn't speak in one class but two. My nephew requested I share in his class as well. I cried happy tears because I knew it was God who opened the door. This isn't an easy school to get into. I've been mentoring there on and off. But to be invited to share during school time! Let me tell you this small town girl is in awe of the doors I've walked through. I shared with the second class about peer pressure. My final activity was to have them write down 5 things they liked about themselves. Can you believe some kids' were hovering over the paper?! If I can teach one kid to see what God created and self love, I've served well.  

I am pumped to see what else 2015 has in store. I have a testimony that will be a blessing to youth and single moms. Wait! Who am I kidding, whomever God places in the audience to hear I pray will be empowered. I've endured and now the manifestation is here. Quick too. Glory! 

 Afterwards the kid and I went to Five Guys for our mother-son outing. He was a cool date and dressed sharp if I'm allowed to brag.
Again, thanks to each of you for the wishes for a prosperous life journey. God has his hand on me  I plan to be intentional in living for Him that my seeds will produce an abundant harvest. Amen. 

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Thursday, January 22, 2015


I wasn't sure that I was going to actual write a post since I didn't do anything today for the burthday week but I'm still getting gifts though. My students are amazing!! #PBLCHS


I remember once someone said to me on Facebook that I never take a bad photo. I tried explaining to them that because I was blogging, I tried to post perfect pictures to showcase the outfit. Today after looking through the shots KT took during lunch and not liking any of them a thought crossed my mind. Was I not going blog to due to imperfections on photos that I was adding a filter to anyway? 

I decided to suck it up and pick 3 pictures that would give the people what I wanted. A look at my outfit. I've been wanting a quilted midi skirt (yes another  **sticks tongue out** after my friend  Shea at  Curves and Confidence posted this look. Fancy, I found one while out shopping for birthday pieces. Who cares if there was too much sun or that I was frowning? I hope you are here for my writing, the stories and random thoughts as much my wardrobe. 

Why am I going to attempt to live under the falsity of being flawless when my blog is all about the real me. The original me that God made unlike another. Truth is, perfection is only found in Him. So in the continued spirit of celebrating  #thirtypluseight, I bring you flawed photos to my blog. Lolol!!

Tomorrow I'm speaking at a Christian school in two separate classes. I prayed ahead of time regarding what I should speak about and the topic. I'll be sharing about self esteem and peer pressure. Maybe I'll share this post. Because at 38 my self esteem is solid enough that I can post imperfect photos because I'm perfect in Christ.

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Wednesday, January 21, 2015


The start of my day has been absolutely amazing.  My heart is so full that all I can do is bask in God’s love for me….I have life!!! And the display of affection and appreciation from family, friends and social networks connections has been so overwhelming I can’t keep up with the liking the post and thanking you all. As I mentioned yesterday, I want to reintroduce myself to you all. I’m not the same divamom, I was a year or two ago, not even yesterday. I awoke this morning, more aware of my purpose after seeing the comments and text messages pop up on my phone. #teamAndroid
Since this is 2015 I’m going to share 15 facts about me that you may or may not have known. Let’s get right to it shall we?

1.       I’m a single mom of a 15 year old named Krystopher Tyler. He’s the reason I want to live for God. Deuteronomy 11: 19-21
2.       I’m now a high school teacher. This year makes 11 that I’ve been in the game.
3.       I love food and fashion. Equally!
4.       I’ve always considered myself a Christian. Now I know that I’ve been converted into the image of Christ. This means I’ve had a heart change and I strive to life a Kingdom life.
5.       I want to complete my PhD in Human Services. Specifically Family Studies and Intervention strategies. I WANNA BE A THERAPIST! #doitGawd
6.       I’m a mommy, daddy, sister, brother and Godmother’s girl. They cater to me and I love it.
7.       I love teaching. The pay sucks.
8.       I do not like numbers so I’ll need a trustworthy accountant someday.
9.       I can read books all day. Now if I could earn a decent living do so. Suggestions?
10.   I love praying for others even when I feel like my own prayers aren’t being answered. I know that’s a trick to discourage me.  As I sow into others good seed is being planted in my life and it does grow and produce. #lessonlearned
11.   I am enjoying my new found love for exercise. This year’s goal is to be able to jog/run a mile.
12.   Football is the game I Iove. Go SEMINOLES!
13.   Short hair is the best look on me. My hair is thick, thick, THICK. Some say a good problem to have.
14.   I like traveling and hope to take a birthday trip soon.
15.   Many have said I’m going to write a book someday. I’m scared. Don’t think I’m a good enough writer but if God speaks through me, I can do it. #staytuned

What else would you like to know about me? 

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tee {{Forever 21}}
tulle skirt {{}}
smile {{joy}}

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Born For This

This week I will celebrate another birthday. Anyone who knows me intimately will tell you that I go hard always for my birthday. After all it is the day,  I was sent to Earth so that I might live, talk, and walk according to God's purpose and plan.

I haven't always accepted this truth but the last two years, nah few months have allowed me to experience a clarity of heart, mind and soul. This epiphany has pushed me closer to Christ and my dream both being used to encourage, uplift, motivate, and empower those I come in contact with daily. I want to serve in this capacity in order for lives to be changed & hearts to be healed because of God's love shining through me. Purpose. My destiny. My life's work.

To commemorate this new year of life, I wanted to reintroduce myself to the world, my blog readers, family, friends as well as those who have yet to discover who I am (you know those God ordained connections that are supposed to happen starting this year). #visionboard 

Habakkuk 2:2-4 (NKJV)
The Just Live by Faith
2 Then the Lord answered me and said:
“Write the vision
And make it plain on tablets,
That he may run who reads it.
3 For the vision is yet for an appointed time;
But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie.
Though it tarries, wait for it;
Because it will surely come,
It will not tarry.
4 “Behold the proud,
His soul is not upright in him;
But the just shall live by his faith.

The scripture reminds me that I can become what I was predestined to be when God himself handcrafted me in His own image. #thisisBibletoo I was born for this! What is "this'? A few things I am certain of that make up 'this' is 1. I am a great teacher; 2. I am a prayer warrior and 3. I have a heart for young people despite their flaws. #theywiilneverwakeupperfect

If you aren't sure of your place in the world and what you were born for, I hope this post encourages you to seek Jesus. Allow Him to reveal your purpose and the plan He has already established for your life. He knows how to get you from your beginning to the end. He is the only one who can make that dash in between your birthday and your death date significant.

Top & Skirt {{ASOS}}
Shoes {{Old Aldo}}
Smile {{Joy from above}}

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Thursday, January 8, 2015

Monochrome Black

Like most bloggers I'm addicted to pinning outfits on Pinterest. One of my goals is to maximize my wardrobe and Pinterest feeds my fashion addiction. 

If you haven't noticed, I rarely wear pants/slacks (jeans do NOT count) because 1. they aren't long enough and 2. I just don't buy em. But every time I typed in all black outfits it was ALWAYS slacks, jeans or ankle pants so I went thrifting and as I was going through the racks of $3 slacks I remembered I owned a pair from NY&Co and they were long length. 

So I raced out of the store #savingmycoins went home and laid this look out. Confession: I've worn this tee from Target a few times since I purchased it. Initially I was sideeyeing the  $12 spent but it was worth it. Yes, indeed!

Add my calf hair animal print belt from Gap that I never wear and I had the perfect monochrome all black teacher look. All was right in my world until my son took more pics that turned out like this (pointing below)

This is my 'I believe I can fly' photo look,  LOLOL! I need a tripod seriously cause KT ain't bout this blog life anymore. Heading to my first vision board party with some FAB ambassadors and other women of faith. I just might blog about it. Hope your day was swell dIvAmOms & dIvAs. 

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Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Shine Bright

What's better than a positive tee and sequin skirt to start off the first week back at school? It went perfect with the inspirational message my Principal shared reminding us to be gentle with students as they readjust especially those whose holiday expectations weren't met. 

One thing I've always attempted to do is ensure my classroom is a safe, loving, positive, fun envirinment with students hard at work. This can't be done if the right tone isn't set. Although this outfit was styled weeks ago for me to wear during the holiday season, I felt it would be a "cool" way to communicate to students my dream for them. Not just in my classroom but in the world! 

And ultimately, I want to be a teacher who shines, a mother who makes the light in my child's eye sparkle and a daughter of the King who makes Him smile. 

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Saturday, January 3, 2015

PEACE {2015}

It was my intention to write and post earlier today. This word has been floating in my head for a few days. Each time I map out in my head what I’m going to write there is some distraction (like a dead phone because all my charging cords are busted). Today is my final Saturday of winter break and I've had so much fun relaxing, exercising, engaging on social media but my most valuable time has been spent before the Lord. As I reflected on 2014, I came to the realization that after 2 years I AM AT PEACE. During my brief time on Instagram today I saw two posts where the ‘Grammers posted one word that would describe 2015. So my focus for this year is to maintain my peace. Despite. What. Might. Happen. The good, bad, ugly and beautiful, I am committed to guarding my peace.

If I told you all that really happened behind the scenes the last two years, ya’ll wouldn’t believe the struggles I've had and the tears I've cried. Thank God for people of faith and therapy. I found my way back to loving my gift of teaching, trusted God through major illnesses, went without transportation for months,  but this post isn't about the negative. I want you to know that things and my idea of success isn’t what gave me this sense of peace. I heard a song by Vickie Yohe about a month ago when she visited my church and it has given me strength when I would question when the trials and fiery storms of life would let up. Listen here and read the lyrics here.

Peace isn’t about everything being perfect. Peace is having the faith to rest in Christ and His promises.

I am leaving you with a gift-peace of mind and heart. And peace I give isn't like the peace the world gives. So don’t be troubled or afraid.” ~John 14:27 Life Recovery Bible

“These things I have spoken unto you, that in me you may have peace. In the world ye have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.” ~John 16:33 American Standard Version.

“The lord bless you and watch, guard and  keep you; The Lord make His ace to shine upon and enlighten you and be gracious (kind, merciful, and giving favor) to you; The Lord lift up His {approving} countenance upon you and give you peace (tranquility of heart and life continually). ~Numbers 6:24-26 

These scriptures remind me that I am not in control. The One who is has promised that even when I am experiencing difficulties I can still have a peaceful mind, spirit and heart of joy. Do yourself a favor….

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