Today provided me with an opportunity to share my story of domestic violence with an 18 year old student. I was visiting an office to recommend another student for intervention services and was asked to provide a woman's touch to a counseling session that was taking place. Y'all it was too early for something so deep to be in the mind of a young lady who aspires to be a doctor! Yep!! Here's the short version.
The young lady is dating someone who is verbally abusive. Having grown up in a home with physical abuse and dating someone who had requirements I could never maintain daily, I knew this was a God moment. Before I continue with the story let me tell you why I believe my steps were orchestrated to visit the office at that moment.
Recently, I've felt pressed to pray for single women and moms. Many of us are juggling so much to the point of weekly exhaustion! We'd love to have a helpmate. Who am I kidding, I'd love to have someone run things for a week a month, a year so I can rest. But for me that wasn't a viable option until now. I couldn't see myself bringing someone into my son's life and things go gravely wrong so I kept my dating life separate. Recently I've been hit over the head south the realization that in a few years (2.5) I'm going to be alone. Panic almost set in. #faithoverfear
I see others falling in love, getting married, blending families and still I felt like this wasn't something that would happen for me. I'd pray about being a Proverbs 31 and being swept of myget then I backtrack after hearing of a ANOTHER failed marriage or another church relationship scandal. Recently, I've begun seeking God to teach me what it truly means to know Him as my everything. For my desire to be for Him not an earthly man who could disappoint. For me to grow in faith and truly know my value before venturing back onto the dating scene. #toomatureforplayplay
This in no way means I'm looking for him #menarehunters or that I'm ready for marriage. It means I've surrendering and have surrendered #workinprogress to God writing my fairytale love story. Taking all I've endured from my childhood, not having quality examples of a Christ centered marriage and protecting my kid heavily influenced me to go ssssssllllloooowww! So I am.
So when I hear this young woman's story, I jump at the chance to tell her that she's valuable to God. That He has a purpose for her life. That a man's validation isn't necessary. It's nice but she's capable of soaring alone until her God mate is sent to her. He might be a high school sweetheart or she might meet him in college. Whenever their paths cross, he'll build her up and not tear down! She will beer more than his part time chick while he stills chill with the ex.
I reminded her that if he verbally attacks her and she accepts this behavior, there will come a day when words aren't enough to give him that feeling of being powerful and controlling. I wanted to say run like hell but instead, I asked to pray with her. She sgreed. So I did. I asked God to guideher as she grew into loving herself so much that she'd be certain how someone should love her. That her dreams of becoming a doctor would take root and manifest. For her protection, daily provision, strength to walk away and to learn the heavenly Father's voicefor guidance to make wise choices.
It was an unforgettable moment. If I do nothing else on my school campus, I've intercepted the evil that could take this child down a road that could end in death so young. I'm humbled being able to use my own struggles as a single woman to empower a young lady who has a destiny of greatness inside yet to be unfolded. Our daughters are younger and our sons involved in violence against each other. Be aware. Be alert.
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