One night I was sitting on my bed after a shower lotioning (Is that a word?) and KT knocks on the door. I allow him to come in. I WAS IN MY ROBE. Cause he’s too old to be barging in my bedroom. Mothers be careful. Set boundaries. Proceeding……He walks in and asked me why my room smelled like skittles. At that moment it was the funniest thing but after I thought about it, I wondered how many single moms or women don’t go to bed smelling like a bag of skittles.
I thought of the inspirational quote, “Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.” And it is. You are special. Every day you are alive is a day to celebrate yourself. That particular night was. There isn't a night that I don’t pull out something yummy to rub into my skin. Free Target plug: you should try the Sonia Kashuk body butters. They are lovely. They aren't skittleish smelling at all.
I’m kidding about the skittles but not about living and loving oneself now, in this very moment. Am I the only one who hates the smell of vanilla on skin or those really sweet body lotions. Gags o.O Why wait to wear the fancy dress, spritz the perfume, put on the lipstick or wear the shoes? If I’m not conditioned to slather exquisite skin butters on now while I’m single, will I suddenly become the girl who does so because someone is sleeping next to me. Maybe. Maybe not. I’d rather it already be a habit. Besides I enjoy smelling yummy after a shower. I know there are various reasons why women don’t pamper themselves as much as they would like. But if you can do so. Paint your own toes. Soak your feet. Treat yourself to dinner, drinks and a movie. Buy the dress or shoes ONLY if you have the extra money and all your bills are paid. Get rid of your kid(s) and spend the night alone drinking wine and reading.
I tell my son that I can’t be any good to parent if I’m no good to myself. I encourage other moms to do the same thing. Single, married, engaged or dating. Be sure that you are loving yourself so well that those around you know what the expectation is in order to be in your space. Whatever it is that makes you feel like the beautiful royal Queen you are go and do it. Be your own lover!