Monday, October 31, 2011

sunday. brunch.


Hello divamoms & divas,

On Sunday I had the pleasure of sharing in a ladies brunch hosted by Ashley of ASassyWoman.com. We meet at a quaint little spot in Miramar, Fl called Elle’s. Let me say how honored I was to be invited. Initially I thought it was for bloggers so I was hesitant to attend. Yes I have a blog. Yes that would make me a blogger but I’m always telling some of the wonderful fashionistas I mingle with here with on the web and via Twitter that I’m not a real fashion blogger. I think of myself as a writer who enjoys a deep love for fashion while I share my heart and thoughts with you my loyal readers.



Ok back to the brunch….so the event brought together women of with a wealth of value from our ages, to our experiences to our careers. It was a memorable time in my life to sit among strong women fellowshipping and building new friendships. Simply put it was perfect! Except for the prizes that I didn’t win. Ashley planned an ice breaker to assist us with getting to know each other and two games. The service at Elle’s was amazing. My waiter was a cute little Cuban guy (y’all know I have a thang for Latin men but shhhhh don’t tell) and he rendered supreme service. Too bad I don’t remember his name and I didn’t get a photo of him.



The highlight of the event was finally meeting Ashley, Creator of A Sassy Woman and Schevashea, Creator of Curves and Confidence. Schevashea entered the room and greeted me as if I were already a good girlfriend she hadn’t seen in months. I’m looking forward to getting to know these ladies better and venturing further down South for other excursions that must include shopping and thrifiting.
with Ashley of A Sassy Woman

with Schvashea of Curves and Confidence
Be sure to check out each of the ladies’ post on the event here and here.  My camera is wacked out. I somehow thought I could 1. Play with the setting and 2. Allow someone else to shoot with it and the result be great photos (sad face..bummer).

P. S. Check out at Thierry Accessories



Bangles: H & M and Forever 21
Earrings: Target
Dress: Gap 
Handbag: Thrifted
Shoes: Ralph Lauren

Happy Monday,
~dIvAmOm~

Thursday, October 27, 2011

teacher. tells. all.


Hi divamoms & divas,

I hope today is a terrific Thursday for you. I’m excited about my night. My “other” mom & I are going to the Improv to see Kevin Hart. I haven’t really watched any of his performances on tv so I’m looking forward to getting out even though I have to work tomorrow. Let’s cross our fingers that he’s funny and I get in some much needed laughs. I need to release some of these work concerns.


Lately I’ve been a bit irritated with what education means today. You may not have ever entertained any of the thoughts I’m about to share but I have and I need to vent. What better place to do it than on my blog with supportive readers. HINT: I really hope you will be J

I realize teaching isn’t about saving the world but shaping lives and encouraging each student to become his or her very best self. One of my problems is we (the educational system and those who work in it) are lying to most of our kids as a whole. We’ve taken on this mentality that every child can succeed (they can) and that we shouldn’t crush anyone’s hopes or dreams. Yet I often ask why are we agreeing 7th grader Sam can become a doctor when he can’t read or 8th grader Shayla doesn’t know her multiplication tables. THEY CAN IF THEY HAVE BASIC SKILLS TO BUILD ON TO ACQUIRE MORE COMPLEX SKILLS. Yes I’m screaming.


There are instances where we need to draw the line. Before you unfollow my blog keep reading. This doesn’t mean I will tell ANY student EVER that he or she doesn’t have the ability to become a contributing citizen to society. What I do find myself doing is keeping it real. I share stories about kids not getting into college because they couldn’t pass the math entrance exam. We teach and allow our students to test with a calculator. I know students who can’t use the calculator appropriately because they don’t know the math steps. I also know some colleges don’t  allow the use of a calculator on the entrance exam. Why don’t our students know this?

Let me give you an example. I’ve seen regular educational tracked students placed in an inclusion class and they don’t need to be there because the student is either being held back or singled out because they are achieving faster than a student with more needs. This can be the result of a teacher who isn’t willing to have multiple assignments in the class (too much work for some) or the kid becoming comfortable with having to perform at a lower ability and earning an easy grade that he or she become complacent.


I am all for an inclusive education but we need to look at each student’s academic ability and attempt to group them in close range. We also need to respect the recommendations of the teacher. If you don’t think the teacher know his or her students shame on you for allowing them to be over children every day! There is no reason to schedule a nonreader (yes we have nonreaders in middle school) with a student who reads at or above grade level because he or she isn’t successful on the FCAT. There I typed it! All the levels on the test are grouped together. This one piece of data is the determining factor for so many things regarding a student’s learning track.

The other issue I’m frustrated with is our willingness to play hush hush with parents. Tell them the truth. Find out what you are working with and make decisions from there. Don’t assume every child in a single parent home has a guardian who is too busy to support you. Don’t assume every child living in a gated community being dropped off and picked up by a parent is brilliant. Don’t assume a parent knows his child is being disrespectful. Don’t assume all children of a teacher are geniuses. Don’t be afraid to suggest to a parent to request a different academic setting for a child if any of the above things are of concern.


Necklace was thrifted for $8!

I see kids daily who are hungry for knowledge. They want ot become better readers and writers and learn math. there are so many dynamics that can hinder them. Teachers need to be prepared to deal with those things or at least be able to identify concerns and refer the child to a guidance counselor. Case in point, I get really pissed when I see too many African American & Hispanic students kicked out of class.

I’m not saying other ethnicities don’t have issues but we tend to be the poster children for everything wrong and it gets magnified. Instead of saying Jose or Juan or NyShakira or Alfred is just plain lazy, dumb and unmotivated ask the kid what’s up. Most of the time they will tell you. Offer them the opportunity to speak with a guidance counselor or someone the campus they trust. Set a time limit and get that child back in class. Truth is if you did that as a teacher you should pack up and look for a job because no instructional time is to be waster. Yet we really are wasting day after day after day when a child sits in class physically but isnt’ engaged mentally.

I could go on and on about how to fix them. And yes I know I made the problem seem simple to solve. They aren’t! Our educational system is so wack!!!!! Yep, I wrote this too. I just believe that we can fix what is broken one teacher, one child, one classroom at a time. I’m thinking I should do a workshop entitled Lies My Child’s School Tells Me. Ugghhh L

The reading teacher who is also a ~dIvAmOm~

P. S. I wore this dress to church not work.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

delegating


Hello divamoms & divas,

It has been a busy week for me. I made a decision to work 4 out of 5 work days after school and I am bone tired! I don’t really have a reason for making this decision that is immediate. I don’t need to be shopping (although I really want to). I want to get KT a few extra things for school and I’d like to have some summer monies.



Truth is who knows what next month holds besides the all knowing GOD? I really don’t need to do so much but like everyone in these tough times I keep telling myself I need the money. Yawn…NOT really if it will have be so tired I can’t do anything when I get home but hit the shower and become a couch potato, lol.



 Have you ever taken on additional projects that you knew didn't fit into your schedule and regretted it? A few days ago I was reading about how we can take on so much that we can wear ourselves thin. This makes me consider that I should make it a habit to really determine through prayer and quiet time what God doesn’t want me to do just as well as seeking His will for my life.

Sometimes good intention cause more harm than good. We can get so caught up in attempting to do good or stirve to reach a certain goal in life that we end up missing the best GOD has lined up for us because we are distracted chasing the good.


These Calvin Klein jeans were thrifted :))

I’m still learning to delegate. Are you?

~dIvAmOm~

Thursday, October 20, 2011

pretty. powerful.


Hello divamoms and divas,

Hope your Thursday was terrifc (sending hugs and love). We are sooo close to the weekend babie and I’m super excited. Is anyone else super duper tired? I’m not even in graduate school and I feel like I need to hibernate for the weekend. Yes it is really that 
serious!

Let me apologize for the quality of the photos. My photographer is still a great guy (thanks KT) but it was raining and I still only know how to use the Easy and People setting on my Canon Powershot SX130 IS. Can you help me? I attempted to edit them but gave up after about 10 minutes so all you get tonight is cropping and my blog tag added. 

If you are thinking I should take more pride in my blog…well ummm ok that’s cool but this is just for kicks. I’m always telling some of my favorite and REAL fashion bloggers how much I appreciate them stopping by the amateur’s blogspot. Without them giving me exposure and you being a subscriber no one would be taking this journey with me. MOMENT OF APPRECIATION!!

I wore this to work this earlier this week. I felt powerful like I belonged in a boardroom but pretty. After seeing the numerous ways a fellow blogger rocked her black blazer (thanks Betty Boop) I ran to my closet and hooked this up:




Skirt & Heels: Target
Earrings: Old
Necklace:  Premier Designs gifted
Blazer: GAP (really old and faded)

Off to shower and cuddle up with a book and some of my monthly magazines: LUCKY, MORE, Essence, Marie Claire and Glamour. I’ve got to stretch my wardrobe for a bit. I do plan to purchase some colored tights to winterize South Florida style my dresses. To hold me down I'll be thrifting, thrifting, thrifting!!

Air Kisses,
~dIvAmOm~


Blueism


Hello divamoms & divas,

Read a devotional a few days ago and walked away with this thought dancing in my head (which I meshed together from the reading) in my head so I’m sharing:

Live & dream BOLDLY! Make no apologies that you are a powerful vessel.


Air Kisses,
~dIvAmOm~

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Checking In


Hello divamoms & divas,

I hope your week has been terrific thus far. I just wanted to let you know that I have a few posts coming soon. All is well but I’ve been so exhausted the past few days. I’m helping a friend out until her car is repaired so I’ve been awakening at 5:30 AM and headed out the door between 7:30 and 7:50 AM.

KT has taken a few photos that I need to edit since they were taken on rainy dreary days. Oh how I miss the South Florida sunshine! I’m heading off to bed soon. KT just finished his science report. Long story. I made him redo the entire thing since he didn’t follow the rubric. Teacher’s kids…humph! Mom says not to put too much pressure on him. I won’t. I do wonder if she thought that when folks were putting too much pressure on me because I am a preacher’s kid. 

Anyhooo, thanks for all the lovely comments. I appreciate you sending new subscribers here to visit. In the mean time, catch up on the days you’ve missed. Comment on the look and share your thoughts about the topic.

Air Kisses,
~dIvAmOm~

Friday, October 14, 2011

MORE


This dress is a winner! My sister purchased it for me more than 2 years ago from ….yes, you guessed it Goodwill. I was trying to channel Mrs. Jackie O and Mrs. Michelle O.

After taking the photos I felt that my accessorizing was all wrong. Nevertheless, I wore it with confidence the entire day and received a lot of compliments on the look.










Dress: Isaac Mizrahi for Target via Goodwill gifted from my Sister
Earrings: Old
Necklace:  Premier Designs gifted
Shoes: $10 at Rainbows
Tosies: Sonia Kashuk’s Fatigued Nail Color

How’d I do?

Happy Weekend & Air Kisses,
~dIvAmOm~

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Colour Rich


Pardon me for bragging again but y’all should know by now that I’m Rainbow Bright’s long lost sister. I don’t care what the seasonal rules say, give me color and I’m transported to a world much like the one Willy Wonka resides in. Yes, I know this season’s Fall trends include color so I’m meeting the expectations (tips hat to self).



I shared these pants on Twitter about 2 months ago. Why did it take me so long to wear them? My butt appeared a bit too LARGE in them when I initially found them during a thrifting excursion. But I loved them from the day I paid less than $5 bucks for them and have played dress up with them on a few occasions trying to figure out how I wanted to wear them.

This lightweight cotton top that’s really old from Old Navy for me was perfect. A black & white color combos is timeless and stripes are chic. This little handbag was a Goodwill treasure find as well. I didn’t want to be matchy matchy. That’s one habit blogging has helped me break.


Initially I wanted to wear some black Paisley Target pumps but my new manicure needed to be displayed. I’m in love with this new color Fatigued (a mixture of grey and army green) I picked up at Target by Sonia Kashuk. Prior to trying this color I only owned her makeup brushes. I’ll be watching her Fall colors to go on sale to add to my collection. Yea, I’m a nail polish junkie too but on a budget. So the Michael Kor’s heels won.


What do you think about this look?

Before I sign off let me thank my you – my loyal readers for always stopping by. A BIG appreciation for you who take the time to leave comments. Waving to my new followers!! I hope you find something interesting enough to keep you coming back for more and more of my journey.

Blessings & Air Kisses,
~dIvAmOm~

Sunday, October 9, 2011

another post from Gram's closet

Hello divamoms and divas!



Just a quick post to show off another piece from my Granny’s closet. I love wearing her clothes. I have a lot  more but they will need a bit of tweaking before I can wear them. I really haven’t found the time to take them to be hemmed, nipped and tucked.


I love bow necktie blouses and will snatch them up every chance I get when thrifitng. They remind me of my favorite high school English teacher Mrs. Norton. And we all know you can never go wrong with a pencil skirt. I love them because they show off  well you know why I love them. I found this one on an excursion to a local Goodwill. Y’all know my passion for the Goodwill. I topped off the look with my orange heels from Bakers and a gifted purple clutch from Charming Charlie’s. Hope you like it.

Thanks for stopping by,
~dIvAmOm~

Saturday, October 8, 2011

a lesson from a kid's movie


I’ve been writing a lot about being successful and not quitting. I’m always looking to hear from GOD in the most unexpected way. That’s how He works. We expect the expected and God works things out in a way that confounds the wise or speaks to us in a way that we often times miss  because we are tuned in to the typical things to hear His voice.

Last night, KT was watching Spirit – Stallion of the Cimarrion last night. I love watching movies with him especially Dreamworks flicks. Well the little guy fell asleep and I kept watching. Actually ended up crying halfway through the movie. I’ve never seen a horse so determined. It was as if Spirit was reminding me of the spirit of perseverance God has placed inside of me to hold fast and tight to my dreams and His promises. I plan to.

I know that my freedom to be who He created me to be will someday manifest. What I must do is set myself to not be broken, captured by man’s inability to believe in my greatness and becoming gridlocked in challenges. Every problem has a solution.  Just ask Spirit J


Air Kisses,

~dIvAmOm~

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Wise Words from Joel Osteen

Hello divamoms & divas,


This devotional was such a blessing yesterday and I couldn't resist sharing it with you this morning. 


Enjoy!


It’s All Still in There

TODAY’S SCRIPTURE
“For God’s gifts and his call can never be withdrawn”
(Romans 11:29, NLT)

TODAY’S WORD  
Today, I want to remind you that you are full of incredible potential. When God created you, He deposited seeds of greatness inside of you. He’s given you your own dreams and desires. You have something to offer that no one else has. But too often, we allow adversities, disappointments and setbacks to push these things down, until one day, we find that we’re not pressing forward anymore. We’re not stretching; we’re not believing to rise any higher.
When adversity comes, it’s easy to think, “Why is this happening to me?” The answer is because the enemy knows what’s on the inside of you. He’s going to do everything he can to keep that seed from taking root. But, he will only be successful if you let him. He can’t stop you unless you quit.
During the difficult times, remember that the gifts and callings God has placed within you are still there. Don’t become stagnate in pursuing your dreams. It’s time to get your fire back! It’s time to press forward. It’s time to dig deep inside and take hold of the marvelous destiny God has prepared for you!
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A PRAYER FOR TODAY
Father, thank You for the gifts and dreams You’ve placed within me. Today, I release my cares and concerns to You. Give me the strength, wisdom and clarity to keep moving forward so I can boldly embrace the good things You have in store for my future in Jesus’ name. Amen.


Be encouraged!
~dIvAmOm~

Monday, October 3, 2011

Up, up & away with Alzheimer









This is my Granny’s dress.
It is too big.
I cinched the waist with a belt.
I wish I could annilate this awful disease by wearing this dress.
I’d put it on daily.
I want back my fashionable, sharp tongued, witty Grandmother.
She loved wearing rogue (blush) – her word not mine)
made from lipstick on her cheeks.
I loooovveee red lipstick. Can you say MAC’s Ruby Woo?
I LOVE my Granny more.
The End
Against Alzheimer,
~dIvAmOm~ 

Sunday, October 2, 2011

LPD: little purple dress

Hello divamoms & divas,

I hope you had a good work week. I was off on Thursday. Instead of sleeping in my son and I attended a luncheon hosted by the Urban League. It was a major fundraiser to support the Nulites program. Nulites is a nationwide youth program founded on the premises that our young people are our most valuable resources. You can read more about the program here.

The was event was hosted by Tamaron Hall and the keynote speaker was Jeff Johnson from msnbc. It was such a dynamic event. I’ll post a picture or two soon. My son wasn’t able to get a photo with him unfortunately. I was a bit disappointed but chalked it up to it not being our moment. I was just delighted that we were able to hear other Nuliters share their personal stories and JJ encourage our middle and high schoolers to dream enormous dreams. It was even televised!! Talk about being in the right place at the right time. I’m a single mom whose money isn’t BIG enough at the moment to attend an event where either of these successful African Americans may be the shining starts of the evening but because some thought of my family & extended an invitation for us to become a part of a life changing organization, we were a part of history. Blessed we are.



You can read about the event here.









I didn’t wear this dress to the event but it would have been appropriate don’t cha think? Wore this to work. I’ve worn this dress only a few times but this has been my favorite look so far. The flower was a $5 addition from H&M. The dress is a Target win. Shoes are Steve Madden via Nordstrom and the Nine West handbag is a really old birthday gift from the Big sister. Call me Ms. Violet, lol.

I ain’t saying go shopping but I think every woman should have a little purple dress in her closet. Don’t you?

Air Kisses,
~dIvAmOm~ 
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